Personal Growth

How To Believe YOU ARE ENOUGH

I know how frustrating it can be when you still find yourself searching for more even after working so hard to achieve everything you always thought you wanted in life.

I spent the first 33 years of my life feeling a bit empty inside because I longed to know what I was created for, and what my purpose here was. I spent years reading books, attending seminars, and praying for the answers.

Why You Need To Believe That You Are Enough

My last two posts have helped you take steps towards away from the belief that you are made for more, towards the belief that you are enough.

I created this post to help you strengthen your resolve in this process so you can finally experience the peace, happiness, and personal freedom that comes with believing that you, as you are, are enough.

How Believing You’re Made For More Limits You In Life

In my last post I shared an activity that encouraged you to to take a trip down memory lane so you can shift from constantly striving for more to finally feeling like enough.

I know this can be a painful process. Something you probably don’t want to do.

But this is the first step towards the personal freedom that comes with rewiring your belief system.

Made For More or Not Enough?

Sometimes success isn’t enough. Even after years of striving to overcome or accomplish everything you always thought you wanted in life, there can still be a void.

A feeling that you have to do or be more. That you are still meant for more.

But when will more be enough?

How To Unlock Your Personal Freedom

Today I have an activity that will help you dismantle hidden beliefs that might be limiting you in life so you can experience more personal freedom.

To start I want you to look back at the hidden belief(s) you discovered in my last post and consider this question - Does this belief still ring true today?

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way: Part Two

“Whether you believe you can, or can’t, you’re right” - Henry Ford

In my last post - I let you in the secret that there are hidden beliefs navigating you through life… Beliefs that are keeping you from the levels of peace, happiness, and fulfillment you actually deserve.

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

In my years of coaching (ok fine and in years of my own personal experience 😜) I've come to find more often than not, we are our own biggest obstacle when it comes to achieving our dreams and goals in life.

We all have these sneaky hidden beliefs about what we think we deserve and are capable of in life... but is there really any truth to these beliefs?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret.... USUALLY NOT.

How Losing My Voice Taught Me Our Voices Matter

In my last post I shared how I lost my voice due to complications in surgery during my fight with thyroid cancer.

How that opened my eyes to just how precious our voices are and that what we have to say matters.

What I didn’t tell you is that I still struggle with self doubt, fear, and insecurity when it comes to sharing my voice and what I have to say. This post gives you an activity to strenghen your beleif in your own voice.

Inspired Living: 5 Free Life-Changing Online Courses Guaranteed to Improve Your Life Now

If you’re ready to find personal happiness, start living your life with zest, increase your awareness level, live in alignment with your dreams and build your confidence then you’ve come to the right place!

The path to personal development and fulfillment always involves learning, and there’s no better place to start than right here, right now.

How to Handle Haters

Deciding to start a business or follow your heart in life? AMAZING! I cannot encourage it enough.

It has the potential to be one of the greatest decisions in your life!  But be warned, on the other side of that freeing decision comes a rollercoaster of emotions, excitement, fears, doubts, and success.

Good new - IT’S SO WORTH IT!

Stop Comparing and Start Living

Have you ever been scrolling through Instagram and then you get the sinking feeling that your life just doesn’t compare. Why aren’t you traveling the world? Why doesn’t your skin glow? Why isn’t your house perfectly clean and decorated? Listen, I have been there.

51 ways to make 2019 your best year yet

We're a couple weeks into the new year, which means you might be starting to lose your excitement and motivation for everything that comes with a new beginning🙈

​I want to help you stay ahead of that this year, so here are 50 ways to help you stay focused and relentlessly committed to making 2019 your best year yet....

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do With Your Life

Have you ever been at the point in your life where you literally do not know what to do next? You feel lost, stuck, hopeless, like you are waking up every day and just walking through the motions. A week goes by and the days blur together.

If you answered yes, please know that you are not alone. I’ve been there and so have many other women that I’ve worked with.

What Keeps You from Reaching Your Goals

There’s so much hope that comes with a new year and a new beginning, but do you know that only about 8% of people will actually follow through on the resolutions and the goals they set for a new year?

Crazy low right!?  

I’m not sharing this to discourage you or bring you down from the new beginning momentum you have, but rather I’m sharing it because I want to help you get ahead of it so you can be one of those 8%.

One Thing to Guarantee Success in 2019

Settings goals for the new year might feel a little bit overwhelming. It can be hard to know where to start or what type of goals to set. If you want to set goals that have meaning, you have to gain clarity on what means the most to you. You have to prioritize the things in your life so you can focus on the right ones. Setting goals which are in alignment with your true. authentic self will help you have your best year yet.

Guest Post from Miranda Allen: I Hired a Life Coach

Today on the blog, my client, Miranda Allen, is sharing her story. I was so excited when she reached out about life coaching earlier this year. She had so many of the fundamental building blocks in place, but she needed an outside perspective to help steer her towards her true self and heartfelt desires. The rest of this post is in her words!

What Keeps Us Stuck

Tell me this, have you ever in your life felt completely stuck? Maybe everything seems great and it makes no logical sense that you have this restless feeling inside of you because from the outside looking in, life looks good. People would say you are successful and have a great life but internally something is off.

What is the Difference Between Setting Goals & Setting Intentions?

This week let's go big with Intentions! This is a long lesson but trust me it's an impactful one! Setting a daily intention is something I challenge myself to each day. It helps set the tone for my day and feel as though I am accomplishing something worthwhile each day. Before I jump into all of this - first I want to draw attention to the difference between Intentions and Goals.

Are you Addicted to the Struggle?

Are you addicted to struggle? I know that there's, a lot of weight in this question, and you might be thinking that this is a crazy concept, but hear me out, The purpose of this short video is to help you become unavailable to the struggle in your life.

A Perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness

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It’s ok to be happy exactly where you are” -Nicole O’Neill

You’re probably reading this and thinking one of two thoughts…

  • That can’t be true, there’s so much more I need to do before I can be happy.

Or

  • Duh Nicole...  and if you feel this way I applaud you! You have already embraced what I’m about to share and it’s a powerful perspective to have in life.  I encourage you to share it with others because it’s something most struggle with.

Personally this statement - that it’s ok to be happy exactly where you are - has been a major life revelation for me over this past year, and I’ve come to realize I’m not alone....

Tell me if you can relate to this ….

Your whole life you’ve felt like you’ve had to accomplish something more, be doing the most you possibly can to overcome what you’ve been through...but it’s never enough. Regardless of how much you do, how much you accomplish, how much you overcome you still feel as though it’s not enough.

That you’re not enough.

And as a result you feel guilty about resting, slowing down, or being happy with where you are because deep down you feel like you have to prove yourself in some way.

This is been my way of life for as long as I can remember. As a result I’ve gotten caught up in a constant mindset of what’s next, what else I can do...and I put this crazy pressure on myself to figure it out, to do more. It drains me, and truthfully makes me feel quite anxious and depressed which is no way to live.

But recently I had an epiphany. One day as I was walking my pup in our adorable new town surrounded by nature and thinking about all the good stuff I have to be grateful for, it hit me like a ton of bricks... why the hell am I rushing ahead?!

I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am, been through so much.. why wouldn’t I slow down & just freaking ENJOY it?!

I’m all about learning, growing, becoming your best self, and  making the most of life... but sometimes the best is exactly where you are right now and there’s no need to think about what’s next but rather enjoying where you are and trusting it will be revealed when the time is right.

As soon as I allowed myself to entertain this thought, this approach to life, it was like a wave of relief came over me. It’s so simple, makes so much sense, but I had been refusing to entertain it as truth.

So my message to you is…

  • If you can relate to this constant go go go

  • If you struggle to feel like you are enough or that you are doing enough

Know that there will always be more to do. There will always be ways to grow and evolve. What but is the point of it all if you are not allowing yourself to enjoy it as it comes?

A perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness in your Life

If we keep rushing ahead, we’ll be sure to miss out on everything we’ve worked so hard for, prayed for, and have around us right now.

So today I encourage you to enjoy exactly where you are right now. Celebrate all you have accomplished in your life.

And the next time you feel that pressure creeping in, those vicious self thoughts of not being or doing enough…. allow yourself to press pause. Tell yourself to shut up, shhh, or be quiet (whatever works for you 😉) and shift your perspective to everything you have in your life right now that makes you smile.

Look at everything you have accomplished, all the good you have around you, and allow yourself to feel happy for where you are in life right now.

Soak in the moment and enjoy your life now before it passes too quickly ❤

And if you could use a tool to help you shape this perspective in your life, download my secrets to happiness guide. It walks you through the best habits for calming your anxiousness and being happy in the now!

Wishing you all the love and happiness,

Xo

Nicole