Personal Freedom

How To Believe YOU ARE ENOUGH

I know how frustrating it can be when you still find yourself searching for more even after working so hard to achieve everything you always thought you wanted in life.

I spent the first 33 years of my life feeling a bit empty inside because I longed to know what I was created for, and what my purpose here was. I spent years reading books, attending seminars, and praying for the answers.

Why You Need To Believe That You Are Enough

My last two posts have helped you take steps towards away from the belief that you are made for more, towards the belief that you are enough.

I created this post to help you strengthen your resolve in this process so you can finally experience the peace, happiness, and personal freedom that comes with believing that you, as you are, are enough.

How Believing You’re Made For More Limits You In Life

In my last post I shared an activity that encouraged you to to take a trip down memory lane so you can shift from constantly striving for more to finally feeling like enough.

I know this can be a painful process. Something you probably don’t want to do.

But this is the first step towards the personal freedom that comes with rewiring your belief system.

Made For More or Not Enough?

Sometimes success isn’t enough. Even after years of striving to overcome or accomplish everything you always thought you wanted in life, there can still be a void.

A feeling that you have to do or be more. That you are still meant for more.

But when will more be enough?

How To Unlock Your Personal Freedom

Today I have an activity that will help you dismantle hidden beliefs that might be limiting you in life so you can experience more personal freedom.

To start I want you to look back at the hidden belief(s) you discovered in my last post and consider this question - Does this belief still ring true today?

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way: Part Two

“Whether you believe you can, or can’t, you’re right” - Henry Ford

In my last post - I let you in the secret that there are hidden beliefs navigating you through life… Beliefs that are keeping you from the levels of peace, happiness, and fulfillment you actually deserve.

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

In my years of coaching (ok fine and in years of my own personal experience 😜) I've come to find more often than not, we are our own biggest obstacle when it comes to achieving our dreams and goals in life.

We all have these sneaky hidden beliefs about what we think we deserve and are capable of in life... but is there really any truth to these beliefs?

I'm going to let you in on a little secret.... USUALLY NOT.

How Losing My Voice Taught Me Our Voices Matter

In my last post I shared how I lost my voice due to complications in surgery during my fight with thyroid cancer.

How that opened my eyes to just how precious our voices are and that what we have to say matters.

What I didn’t tell you is that I still struggle with self doubt, fear, and insecurity when it comes to sharing my voice and what I have to say. This post gives you an activity to strenghen your beleif in your own voice.

Quotes Empowering You to Use Your Voice

In honor of Women’s history month I wanted to share some of the most powerful words that have empowered and moved me over the years.

Call me a nerd but I continuously turn to quotes for inspiration and encouragement in life. There’s something so powerful about the way words can make you feel less alone in whatever it is you are chasing after in life.

The Best Way to do Work You Love - Live in your Genius Zone

What is your genius zone.

If you want to do work that makes you feel fulfilled, happy, and financially successful, you want to discover the special gifts you have to offer the world.

When you lead with these, you are living from a place of truth and authenticity. You are living in your zone of genius.

Feeling stuck, or are you really just too complacent?

Complacency is something to be very wary of in your life! While I’m all about slowing down so you can fully enjoy and celebrate everything you have worked so hard for, progress and growth are part of our nature.

It’s what motivates us, energizes us, and sparks our passion for life,  

And the key to ongoing progress/grows is consistently doing things that challenge you. When you stop doing things that push you forward in someway,  that’s when you lose your sense of purpose, energy, and excitement in life.

Stop Comparing and Start Living

Have you ever been scrolling through Instagram and then you get the sinking feeling that your life just doesn’t compare. Why aren’t you traveling the world? Why doesn’t your skin glow? Why isn’t your house perfectly clean and decorated? Listen, I have been there.

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do With Your Life

Have you ever been at the point in your life where you literally do not know what to do next? You feel lost, stuck, hopeless, like you are waking up every day and just walking through the motions. A week goes by and the days blur together.

If you answered yes, please know that you are not alone. I’ve been there and so have many other women that I’ve worked with.

What Keeps Us Stuck

Tell me this, have you ever in your life felt completely stuck? Maybe everything seems great and it makes no logical sense that you have this restless feeling inside of you because from the outside looking in, life looks good. People would say you are successful and have a great life but internally something is off.

Are you Addicted to the Struggle?

Are you addicted to struggle? I know that there's, a lot of weight in this question, and you might be thinking that this is a crazy concept, but hear me out, The purpose of this short video is to help you become unavailable to the struggle in your life.

A Perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness

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It’s ok to be happy exactly where you are” -Nicole O’Neill

You’re probably reading this and thinking one of two thoughts…

  • That can’t be true, there’s so much more I need to do before I can be happy.

Or

  • Duh Nicole...  and if you feel this way I applaud you! You have already embraced what I’m about to share and it’s a powerful perspective to have in life.  I encourage you to share it with others because it’s something most struggle with.

Personally this statement - that it’s ok to be happy exactly where you are - has been a major life revelation for me over this past year, and I’ve come to realize I’m not alone....

Tell me if you can relate to this ….

Your whole life you’ve felt like you’ve had to accomplish something more, be doing the most you possibly can to overcome what you’ve been through...but it’s never enough. Regardless of how much you do, how much you accomplish, how much you overcome you still feel as though it’s not enough.

That you’re not enough.

And as a result you feel guilty about resting, slowing down, or being happy with where you are because deep down you feel like you have to prove yourself in some way.

This is been my way of life for as long as I can remember. As a result I’ve gotten caught up in a constant mindset of what’s next, what else I can do...and I put this crazy pressure on myself to figure it out, to do more. It drains me, and truthfully makes me feel quite anxious and depressed which is no way to live.

But recently I had an epiphany. One day as I was walking my pup in our adorable new town surrounded by nature and thinking about all the good stuff I have to be grateful for, it hit me like a ton of bricks... why the hell am I rushing ahead?!

I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am, been through so much.. why wouldn’t I slow down & just freaking ENJOY it?!

I’m all about learning, growing, becoming your best self, and  making the most of life... but sometimes the best is exactly where you are right now and there’s no need to think about what’s next but rather enjoying where you are and trusting it will be revealed when the time is right.

As soon as I allowed myself to entertain this thought, this approach to life, it was like a wave of relief came over me. It’s so simple, makes so much sense, but I had been refusing to entertain it as truth.

So my message to you is…

  • If you can relate to this constant go go go

  • If you struggle to feel like you are enough or that you are doing enough

Know that there will always be more to do. There will always be ways to grow and evolve. What but is the point of it all if you are not allowing yourself to enjoy it as it comes?

A perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness in your Life

If we keep rushing ahead, we’ll be sure to miss out on everything we’ve worked so hard for, prayed for, and have around us right now.

So today I encourage you to enjoy exactly where you are right now. Celebrate all you have accomplished in your life.

And the next time you feel that pressure creeping in, those vicious self thoughts of not being or doing enough…. allow yourself to press pause. Tell yourself to shut up, shhh, or be quiet (whatever works for you 😉) and shift your perspective to everything you have in your life right now that makes you smile.

Look at everything you have accomplished, all the good you have around you, and allow yourself to feel happy for where you are in life right now.

Soak in the moment and enjoy your life now before it passes too quickly ❤

And if you could use a tool to help you shape this perspective in your life, download my secrets to happiness guide. It walks you through the best habits for calming your anxiousness and being happy in the now!

Wishing you all the love and happiness,

Xo

Nicole

"Comparison is the Thief of Joy"... or is it?

Could it be a Source of Joy?

We've all heard it time and time again but what if it could be a source of joy? 

Stick with me here I know this might seem like a radical idea but it's something that has helped me IMMENSELY. 

Comparison can be crippling. But it's also hard to avoid.

My strategy up until recently was to try and avoid it. But then I realized that’s just no way to live. So I decided to figure out a way to look at it differently….

Consider this....what if those icky feelings of comparison were actually your inner potential trying to push you into action? 

How to stop feeling like a failure

Alright ladies who out there puts an insane amount of pressure on themselves? Regardless of how much you do, how much you give, how much you accomplish you find yourself feeling inadequate? Feeling like you can never do enough? 

So many of us do! Well today I’m going to share a little something I learned that has helped give me new perspective and peace.