Happiness

How To Believe YOU ARE ENOUGH

I know how frustrating it can be when you still find yourself searching for more even after working so hard to achieve everything you always thought you wanted in life.

I spent the first 33 years of my life feeling a bit empty inside because I longed to know what I was created for, and what my purpose here was. I spent years reading books, attending seminars, and praying for the answers.

Why You Need To Believe That You Are Enough

My last two posts have helped you take steps towards away from the belief that you are made for more, towards the belief that you are enough.

I created this post to help you strengthen your resolve in this process so you can finally experience the peace, happiness, and personal freedom that comes with believing that you, as you are, are enough.

How Believing You’re Made For More Limits You In Life

In my last post I shared an activity that encouraged you to to take a trip down memory lane so you can shift from constantly striving for more to finally feeling like enough.

I know this can be a painful process. Something you probably don’t want to do.

But this is the first step towards the personal freedom that comes with rewiring your belief system.

Made For More or Not Enough?

Sometimes success isn’t enough. Even after years of striving to overcome or accomplish everything you always thought you wanted in life, there can still be a void.

A feeling that you have to do or be more. That you are still meant for more.

But when will more be enough?

How To Unlock Your Personal Freedom

Today I have an activity that will help you dismantle hidden beliefs that might be limiting you in life so you can experience more personal freedom.

To start I want you to look back at the hidden belief(s) you discovered in my last post and consider this question - Does this belief still ring true today?

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way: Part Two

“Whether you believe you can, or can’t, you’re right” - Henry Ford

In my last post - I let you in the secret that there are hidden beliefs navigating you through life… Beliefs that are keeping you from the levels of peace, happiness, and fulfillment you actually deserve.

How to be the Happiest Person You Know

Happiness...it's what makes life worthwhile, am I right?

But sometimes it just seems so far off, like such a struggle.

Believe it or not, it actually makes no logical sense that I have never faced full on depression or completely derailed in life. No really... it's actually something my doctors, therapists, and personal coaches have all told me.

Despite a life of being knocked down, having all odds against me, and trauma after trauma... I've been able to persevere through with a positive outlook, rise above adversity, and truly enjoy life.

Life After Loss

No one ever really talks about, or prepares you for, how the pain of losing someone close to you never really goes away....

Even as the days and years pass, you’re still going to think about and miss that person every single day.

It’s almost like the pain just becomes part of you, and somewhere along the way you learn to accept it or live with it.

While we each learn to cope and carry on in our own way, I want to share a couple of things that might help you along the way….

Inspired Living: 5 Free Life-Changing Online Courses Guaranteed to Improve Your Life Now

If you’re ready to find personal happiness, start living your life with zest, increase your awareness level, live in alignment with your dreams and build your confidence then you’ve come to the right place!

The path to personal development and fulfillment always involves learning, and there’s no better place to start than right here, right now.

How to Handle Haters

Deciding to start a business or follow your heart in life? AMAZING! I cannot encourage it enough.

It has the potential to be one of the greatest decisions in your life!  But be warned, on the other side of that freeing decision comes a rollercoaster of emotions, excitement, fears, doubts, and success.

Good new - IT’S SO WORTH IT!

Secrets To Doing Work You Love

Over the last few days I’ve been sharing some stories to help you shift your perspective away from the common belief that work has to be about just surviving in life.

Unfortunately there’s a common misconception in society that you can’t have both finances and fulfillment in your work. We’ve been led to believe it’s an either or situation- finances or fulfillment.

But that’s just not the case anymore.

Feeling stuck, or are you really just too complacent?

Complacency is something to be very wary of in your life! While I’m all about slowing down so you can fully enjoy and celebrate everything you have worked so hard for, progress and growth are part of our nature.

It’s what motivates us, energizes us, and sparks our passion for life,  

And the key to ongoing progress/grows is consistently doing things that challenge you. When you stop doing things that push you forward in someway,  that’s when you lose your sense of purpose, energy, and excitement in life.

Stop Comparing and Start Living

Have you ever been scrolling through Instagram and then you get the sinking feeling that your life just doesn’t compare. Why aren’t you traveling the world? Why doesn’t your skin glow? Why isn’t your house perfectly clean and decorated? Listen, I have been there.

51 ways to make 2019 your best year yet

We're a couple weeks into the new year, which means you might be starting to lose your excitement and motivation for everything that comes with a new beginning🙈

​I want to help you stay ahead of that this year, so here are 50 ways to help you stay focused and relentlessly committed to making 2019 your best year yet....

What to Do When You Don't Know What to Do With Your Life

Have you ever been at the point in your life where you literally do not know what to do next? You feel lost, stuck, hopeless, like you are waking up every day and just walking through the motions. A week goes by and the days blur together.

If you answered yes, please know that you are not alone. I’ve been there and so have many other women that I’ve worked with.

How to Beat Anxiety Naturally

Anxiety is something that is on the rise in society. We are so busy and always thinking ahead to what’s next. We are progress driven, and there is a lot of pressure on us to always do more. I hear so many people expressing that they have anxiety, especially younger people, which breaks my heart because they are still trying to figure out what the world is all about. Yet, they are so stressed out and have these uneasy feelings.

What is the Difference Between Setting Goals & Setting Intentions?

This week let's go big with Intentions! This is a long lesson but trust me it's an impactful one! Setting a daily intention is something I challenge myself to each day. It helps set the tone for my day and feel as though I am accomplishing something worthwhile each day. Before I jump into all of this - first I want to draw attention to the difference between Intentions and Goals.

Are you Addicted to the Struggle?

Are you addicted to struggle? I know that there's, a lot of weight in this question, and you might be thinking that this is a crazy concept, but hear me out, The purpose of this short video is to help you become unavailable to the struggle in your life.

A Perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness

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It’s ok to be happy exactly where you are” -Nicole O’Neill

You’re probably reading this and thinking one of two thoughts…

  • That can’t be true, there’s so much more I need to do before I can be happy.

Or

  • Duh Nicole...  and if you feel this way I applaud you! You have already embraced what I’m about to share and it’s a powerful perspective to have in life.  I encourage you to share it with others because it’s something most struggle with.

Personally this statement - that it’s ok to be happy exactly where you are - has been a major life revelation for me over this past year, and I’ve come to realize I’m not alone....

Tell me if you can relate to this ….

Your whole life you’ve felt like you’ve had to accomplish something more, be doing the most you possibly can to overcome what you’ve been through...but it’s never enough. Regardless of how much you do, how much you accomplish, how much you overcome you still feel as though it’s not enough.

That you’re not enough.

And as a result you feel guilty about resting, slowing down, or being happy with where you are because deep down you feel like you have to prove yourself in some way.

This is been my way of life for as long as I can remember. As a result I’ve gotten caught up in a constant mindset of what’s next, what else I can do...and I put this crazy pressure on myself to figure it out, to do more. It drains me, and truthfully makes me feel quite anxious and depressed which is no way to live.

But recently I had an epiphany. One day as I was walking my pup in our adorable new town surrounded by nature and thinking about all the good stuff I have to be grateful for, it hit me like a ton of bricks... why the hell am I rushing ahead?!

I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am, been through so much.. why wouldn’t I slow down & just freaking ENJOY it?!

I’m all about learning, growing, becoming your best self, and  making the most of life... but sometimes the best is exactly where you are right now and there’s no need to think about what’s next but rather enjoying where you are and trusting it will be revealed when the time is right.

As soon as I allowed myself to entertain this thought, this approach to life, it was like a wave of relief came over me. It’s so simple, makes so much sense, but I had been refusing to entertain it as truth.

So my message to you is…

  • If you can relate to this constant go go go

  • If you struggle to feel like you are enough or that you are doing enough

Know that there will always be more to do. There will always be ways to grow and evolve. What but is the point of it all if you are not allowing yourself to enjoy it as it comes?

A perspective Shift to Calm Anxiousness in your Life

If we keep rushing ahead, we’ll be sure to miss out on everything we’ve worked so hard for, prayed for, and have around us right now.

So today I encourage you to enjoy exactly where you are right now. Celebrate all you have accomplished in your life.

And the next time you feel that pressure creeping in, those vicious self thoughts of not being or doing enough…. allow yourself to press pause. Tell yourself to shut up, shhh, or be quiet (whatever works for you 😉) and shift your perspective to everything you have in your life right now that makes you smile.

Look at everything you have accomplished, all the good you have around you, and allow yourself to feel happy for where you are in life right now.

Soak in the moment and enjoy your life now before it passes too quickly ❤

And if you could use a tool to help you shape this perspective in your life, download my secrets to happiness guide. It walks you through the best habits for calming your anxiousness and being happy in the now!

Wishing you all the love and happiness,

Xo

Nicole