What is my purpose? What am I meant for?
These are some of the most intimidating and overwhelming questions we can face in our lives. We all go through these times where we really start to dig deep and think, “What am I meant for? Where am I headed in life? What is my greater purpose? What is the meaning of my life.”
These are transitional times in life and they can be extremely confusing, overwhelming, and lonely. They can make you feel so stuck and almost paralyzed to action. If you are there right now, I feel for you. I’ve been there many times in my life.
I want to give you a perspective shift that has can help.
It’s something a mentor shared with me recently and when I heard it, a rush of relief flooded over me. It felt as though so much pressure was being lifted and I could breath easily in my life. That is the feeling I want to give you today.
It’s likely you will go through a few different times in your life where you question what you are meant for and what your purpose is. That is perfectly normal! We all go through different transitional phases throughout our lives. We change, we grow… and growth is good! We are programmed for progress so the first way I encourage you to approach these transitional times is with the realization that you have grown and you are ready for a higher level in your life.
Try to think of it this way - When you are questioning your next steps in life, something inside is trying to wake you up, call out to you, and help you look at your life through a different lens. If you are the type of person who feels you have been struggling with this throughout your entire life, I’m going to guess that struggle IS your way of life. You are always trying to do more, be more, and you are burning the candle at both ends.
You feel as though you have to continuously push forward and do as much as humanly possible to get ahead in order to feel a sense of significance and self worth. You feel that the more action you take, the more answers you will get. And while I am all about action,. it’s more about the approach to the actions that you take.
So if you are someone who is struggling with, “What am I meant for? What am I made for? What is my purpose in life?” You have probably been going through life feeling like you have to struggle to get ahead. And you might be a little bit addicted to struggle. I say that from experience because I am someone who was addicted to struggle.
It started when I was really young. I grew up in a home that was very abusive, and at a young age, I remember being absolutely terrified for my life and spending so much time on my own just struggling to get ahead. I came to believe that if I wanted to become something in this world, if I was going to get ahead, I was going to have to struggle and overcome.
But then I got to this point in my life where I had done all of that. I had “gotten ahead” and achieved success, but inside I was feeling so empty. I couldn’t figure out what all of this struggle was for? What were my next steps supposed to be?
And, the biggest shift for me was when I realized, your life purpose can be anything you want it to be. It doesn’t have to be this big epiphany moment that falls from the sky and hits you. It is something you choose. You choose what you want it to be.
With that in mind, I want you to consider this, the purpose of life is peace. Peace. That is it. And there are so many different ways YOU can reach peace.
If you are looking to live your best life, your true life, your authentic life, to find your voice, to find your true north… I want to recommend you to approach each day with the question of
“What will bring me the most peace right now?”
When you lead with that as your navigational system, you start to lead with your heart, from a place of integrity. Your values come through. You start to organize your life around your priorities and what means the most to you.
I know it can seem like a radical idea if you are programmed to think you have to do as much as possible, make everyone else happy before you make yourself happy, and that you are going to have to fight to get through and feel accomplished.
But consider this instead -> if you lead with “What will bring me peace?” What will bring me peace moment to moment. If you ask that question you will trigger that inner guide. pointing you towards the actions you really want to take.
It is a practice because you have built your whole life to get to where you are now… but the more you do that, the more clearly you will see what the next steps will be based on what feels right to you because that is what will bring you the most peace. What will aligns with your values, and what you truly want your impact to be.
If you want a little help and guidance helping align your actions with your true inner, navigational system, join me in my FREE Personal Planning Virtual Retreat! Registration is open, and I would love to have you.